We are surrounded by it. It is inevitable. So why do we fear it? Why do we despair?  Because we live in a fallen world and our hearts yearn for control.  Fear of change is really fear of the unknown. We fear most change because we were not the ones who set it in motion.  We despair because things changed in a way we would not have chosen for ourselves.

All around us are things growing, changing, living and dying. We grow anxious because our minds become focused on the unpredictable sea of life; the impending storm on the horizon, the swells with their high peaks and dark valleys that feel like tombs, the heavy waves that crash over us unexpectedly.

As the year 2014 draws to an end and I reflect over its days there has been ample change that could have caused my heart to fear. My husband had a drastic career change after 10 years throwing us into a storm of unpredictability that carried us 800 miles away into new job, community, and home. In the middle of all this, I lost two uncles this summer one month apart in tragic accidents.

But my hopeful heart remained anchored to the promises of God.
My heart held fast even more so to Him who fulfilled these promises.

For the Son of God, Jesus Christ, whom we proclaimed among you was not Yes and No, but in him it is always Yes.
For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory.
2 Corinthians 1:19-20

“Ship in Sea”

This is the truth you can anchor your heart to. Whatever changes we are riding out in this storm of life in our little boats, remember you are on the same sea as Jesus, who as creator calmed the tempest with just his words, “Peace, be still”.

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. Hebrews 13:8

Maybe the changes in your life are loss of a loved one, sickness, tragedy, new relationships, new baby, miscarriage, babies growing up, kids starting school, kids leaving for college, new job, new home, search for friends.

No matter what unknown you face today or what will come tomorrow, you can have hope.


It is by tempest and tossing that we shall come to land, as He did before us. Jesus is the star of the sea; and though there may be sorrow upon the sea, when Jesus is on it there is joy too.
-Charles Spurgeon

God also bound himself with an oath, so that those who received the promise could be perfectly sure that he would never change his mind. So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God’s inner sanctuary. Jesus has already gone in there for us. He has become our eternal High Priest in the order of Melchizedek. (‭Hebrews‬ ‭6‬:‭17-20‬ NLT)

Growing in Wisdom


So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.
Return, O LORD! How long? Have pity on your servants!
Satisfy us in the morning with your steadfast love, that we may rejoice and be glad all our days.
Make us glad for as many days as you have afflicted us, and for as many years as we have seen evil.
Let your work be shown to your servants, and your glorious power to their children. Let the favor of the Lord our God be upon us, and establish the work of our hands upon us; yes, establish the work of our hands!

(Psalm 90:12-17)

Today is my 32nd birthday.  I have chosen this scripture to pray over as my birthday prayer and I am choosing to share it with you. May we all grow in Wisdom and Fear of the Lord as we continue to ABIDE in Him.


I am fearfully and wonderfully made in your image.  I praise you this morning on my 11,688th day!  As I number these days and look forward to the ones to come, I pray to grow in wisdom. Give me wisdom each day, because I know you can and you will if I ask for it.  I will receive it in faith and obedience.

Father, satisfy me each morning with your steadfast love.  It is unchanging, it is ever present, it is undeserved, but I am oh so very thankful to have it!  Fill me up with it as I hunger and thirst for more of you.

Then I will rejoice and be glad.  For your love transcends all understanding. If you are for me than who can stand against?

Make my heart glad as I look back and recall all the afflictions of my life.  For it is in them that I most clearly see your love and faithfulness. It is through those trials that you have proven to me your power and strength and love.

Let your work continue to be shown before me, for I am your servant.  May all the words of my mouth, the desires of my heart and the work of my hands be in your service.

Father, show your glorious power to my children.  As they witness my own sin and repentance and forgiveness let them see the mighty work of your love in me.  Open their eyes to the power of my Savior and the joy that comes in taking up my cross and following him.   Show us your power as we walk together day in and day out.  May we wonder together at your majesty as we read, play, learn, eat, and sleep.  Show them how you hear and answer their sweet prayers.  Show them how willing you are to receive them in your arms with forgiveness.  And in those moments when it matters most, soften my heart to be an example of your love and forgiveness and mercy to them.  Show them that when they seek you, they will always find you…and remind me of this truth each day as well.

Let your favor be upon me, my marriage, and my family this year, Father.  Establish the work of my hands upon me.  Reveal your purpose for me, initiate it and set it firmly and permanently upon your solid foundations.  That way it cannot fail, but come to completion to the glory and praise of your precious Name.

YES, Establish the work of my hands!

For I am your humble servant, abiding in the vine. Here I am LORD, use me as you will.


The Promises of God


As this new year begins, I feel like it is Spring my heart. As I draw nearer to God in prayer and studies, all is warmer, brighter, more fragrant.  It is not all picking daisies and smelling roses though. In just a few short weeks I have sought fellowship with the Father more and in turn have been bombarded with confrontation from the enemy.  There is a process taking place resembling that of weeding the garden or cleaning out the closets.

Still, the new year brings a lot of excitement for me.  I love the feeling of a fresh start.  I am not so good at the disciplines of dieting or exercise so those kinds of resolutions have no appeal, but I rejoice at the chance to make new goals for my spiritual life and grow in godliness.  

Rather train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. For to this end we toil and strive, because we have our hope set on the living God, who is the Savior of all people, especially of those who believe. (1 Timothy 4:7-10)

So I have three New Year’s Resolutions:

1. I resolve to “toil and strive” to “set my hope on the living God” this year. To do so, I have chosen to study the Promises of God.  I want to know more of them, know more about His character from them, and be able to apply them to my spiritual walk. I have chosen two scriptures as my theme.

His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire. (2 Peter 1:3-4)

For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory. (2 Corinthians 1:20)

2. I resolve to read through the Bible at least once this year and study the Promises of God throughout.  I am using a reading plan on my You Version Bible App called, The Discipleship Journal Book-at-a-Time Reading Plan.  So far I have read through Genesis, most of Exodus, some of the Psalms and Proverbs. As I am reading I am marking God’s Promises and I have already lost count.  I cherish each one and love seeing the Redemptive History in the Old Testament.

3. I resolve to grow in the practice of the spiritual disciplines.  I am co-facilitating a class on fasting and prayer for my local PWOC (Protestant Women of the Chapel) and a huge part of the class is looking at Fasting and Prayer as disciplines.  It is a spiritual exercise, if you will. We may not always have the great desire to do them, just like passing on that cupcake or going for a run, but when we do take that first step of obedience, we are carried into the path of God’s grace and we grow in godliness.

I plan to write much more this year on the Promises of God and the Spiritual Disciplines. I also plan to write more on fasting as the season of Lent draws near. I look forward to sharing my experiences with you all and I hope to encourage you in your walk with God this year.  May we all grow in godliness and in doing so “be conformed to the image of his Son” (Romans 8:29).

Have you made any resolutions this year?  Have you already suffered confrontation and struggles?  If so, I encourage you to take that step of obedience again and see the rewards in store for you.  May God bless you and keep you.

Abiding in Him,

Melissa K.

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Library Cart for 2014

I bought my husband a sander for Christmas. He has a great desire to find more time for woodworking. I wholeheartedly support this hobby, especially when there are so many wonderful projects I can send his way. My first for this year? A library cart shelf. Next to my favorite seat on our couch is a constant stack of books, journals, magazines and knitting paraphernalia. I got the great idea to have him build me a replica of a library cart to park right there for organization and easy access. Something like this:

Or this:

With maybe some shelves like this on the bottom for my yarn:

So today I am sharing with you the books that will find their home on my library cart this year. I am very sure it is subject to change, but this is the short list of books I want to read this year.

Some of them are oldies from my shelf that I haven’t read in a while, some were Christmas gifts.
The first is the Bible. I am trying a new reading plan this year. It is the Discipleship Journal’s Book-at-a-Time Reading Plan from the You Version Bible App. I am hoping it will bring more continuity to my daily readings as I search God’s word this year to study His Promises. I will go into more detail about that in another post coming soon.
Tempted and Tried by Russell D. Moore
I have had this one on my shelf for a couple years and still haven’t got the chance to read it. I am really looking forward to digging into it soon.

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte
Just one of the classics that I haven’t had a chance to read in a while. I probably won’t be able to get to this one until our Homeschooling year is done and we are well into summer vacation.

A Woman’s Guide to Fasting by Lisa E. Nelson
I am a Co-Facilitator for this book in my local P.W.O.C. (Protestant Women of the Chapel). I am very encouraged by the simple truths of this book and the loving guidance offered by the author. It is practical and still gets straight to the heart of this forgotten Christian discipline.

A Hunger for God by John Piper
This is another great book on Fasting that I am reading as supplementary material for the PWOC class. It is also available as a free PDF here at

Women Living Well by Courtney Joseph
This is a fairly new book. I breezed through it quickly this fall, but plan to slow down and really soak it in again. Written by one of the founders of


The Promises of God by R.C. Sproul
My prayerfully chosen theme for this year is the Promises of God. I will be writing a post about it later this week. This book looks like an amazing way for me to kick off the year studying and learning about God’s promises in his word.

The Mission of Motherhood and The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson
Both of these have been recommended to me by several wise and loving mothers who give them rave reviews. I am already planning a simpler homeschool schedule for next year in the event that we will be moving again {love the military life}. I chose to read these two books first to get my thoughts back to the heart of it all; the hearts of my children.


Discipline: The Glad Surrender by Elisabeth Elliot
Discipline: I need it, lots of it. This book explores areas of discipline that I haven’t considered much before like honoring others, time and work.

One Hundred and One Devotions for the Homeschool Mom and One Hundred and One More Devotions for the Homeschool Mom by Jackie Wellwood
These two devotionals are essential for me during the school year. The author has such a tender way of understanding the hearts of homeschool moms and encouraging her reader’s with God’s word and also asking great questions to get you praying and applying it to your day.


Educating the Wholehearted Child by Clay and Sally Clarkson
As I said before, I am already revamping our Homeschool for next year and I am hoping to start here with this book. We use the Charlotte Mason method so the thought of a simpler homeschool using real books and real life really appeals to me.
So that is it. That is what I have filled my virtual library cart with for the year and hopefully soon they will fill a real handmade library cart by my chair as well.
What are you reading now? What do you plan to read this year? I would love to hear from you and maybe even grow my list with your ideas. Leave a comment and let us know. Many blessings for the New Year.

Abiding in Him,


Love Never Ends-Abide in My Love Series

love never endsAs this series draws to a close in this post I can say it is the perfect closing to the year for me.  I feel I can finish strong.  I know that this theme has taught and served me well, but more importantly that these verses bring so much glory to the name of Christ.  And I am so thankful that I have had the chance to share them and my thoughts with you.  I pray that as we all enter this Advent season, we will see Jesus as our Hope, Light, Peace, Joy and most importantly our Love.

Paul tells us that love “does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth” (vs.6).  Jesus dined with sinners and sought them out to heal and save them, but he did not rejoice in their wrongdoings.  He rejoiced in the truth.  He rejoiced when a woman had the faith to reach out and touch just the fringe of his garment as he passed by and he healed her (Matthew 9:20).  He marveled and rejoiced at the faith of the Centurion who asked Jesus to heal his beloved servant with just word while still traveling.  He rejoiced as the woman poured alabaster on his feet and wiped them with her own tears and hair, kissing them.

Then turning toward the woman he said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” (Luke 7:44-48)

He knew the truth was that they all had faith in Him and that they recognized him as the Christ. As we navigate our lives abiding in His Love, we need to remember to rejoice in this truth and seek out others who need his love. Speak it into the lives of your husbands and children, your neighbors, even your enemies.

Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.(Ephesians 4:15-16)

Now, let us look closely at the last 5 attributes that Paul gives to his personified “love”in verses 7 and 8.

Love bears all things. ~ Bearing the weight of suffering, sickness, tribulation, loss, grief, and temptation does not have to be done alone.  Love bears it all. His love is enough to carry you through.  For he says, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30) Love is also finding genuine joy when the truth prevails in someone else’s life.

Love believes all things. ~ Jesus does not hold our sin against us.  Once we believe and call him Lord, we are forgiven and are clothed in his righteousness.  This is a hard thing to grasp in our minds.  We are forgiven.  So as Christians, we are called to love others, forgive others their trespasses and not to count up their wrongs in resentment.  Believing the best in others can be hard as we pick out faults and areas that we believe they need improvement and growth, but that is between them and the Lord. Love them, trust them and believe the best in them.

Love hopes all things. ~ Our God is the God of hope. (Romans 15:13) And we have every reason to hope in him. But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. “The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.” (Lamentations 3:21-24) Having and understanding the hope we have in Christ aids us in our calling to love others. Regardless of one’s faults, we know that there is hope for them in every circumstance in Christ.

Love endures all things. ~ The trials of this life can threaten our relationships with others. Loving others the way Christ loves us takes endurance.  But fear not! We have our strength in HIM! By the power of the Holy Spirit grace upon grace is poured out bringing peace, hope, and love.  We can endure, because of his love for us. Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. (Romans 5:1-5, ESV)

Love never ends. ~ Paul compares love to the spiritual gifts of prophecy, knowledge and languages which the Corinthians highly valued.  Those things will all pass away. (1 Corinthians 13:8-10) Love in all its glory is divine. “God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him” (1 John 4 :15-16). Love will outlast all, even the sins and failures of our brothers and sisters in Christ. Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).

Love characterizes the life of a believer. Enabled by the Holy Spirit, we are to live out love in all we think, say, and do.

So my sweet sisters and brothers in Christ, Abide in His Love.


Love is Not Irritable or Resentful- Abide in My Love Series



What causes us to get irritated at another person? Is it a lack of patience? Are some people just able to push all the wrong buttons? Maybe, but the root of our irritability goes deeper yet.  It stems from our own desires and wants.  It grows from a selfish attitude.

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. (James 4:1-2)

When I get irritated it is almost 100% of the time because I am putting my own wants and desires above the needs of others.  I get irritated because my heart is focused on what I want.  I want my children to be quieter in the grocery store so I can avoid the aggravated looks from strangers as my boys fight like ninjas in the isles and my 3 year old daughter screams for cookies.  I speak to them, irritated, because I selfishly want others to see me as a good parent.

I get irritated in my marriage because I get too caught up in the little things that do not matter.  I stress over the dishes and laundry and forget to just love my husband and put his needs first.  More joy comes from snuggling on the couch talking with him about his day than running around doing silly chores while complaining about having to do them.  And he would rather me be in his arms and have my attention than have a spotless kitchen and clean clothes in his drawer.

Lately my own worst enemy that causes me to be irritable is my iPhone. I am horribly and shamefully addicted. Like Pavlov’s dogs I pick it up immediately when it rings, no matter what I am doing.  I get sucked into that email or article or weather report or,  Facebook {BUM, BUM, BUUMMMM}  My children interrupt to ask for something and I lash out in frustration because I am trying to read an email or write a text. Here is a link to a great blog post about Distracted Parenting for those of you who struggle in this area.



Biblically, how do we stop this sinful behavior of irritability?

Proverbs 17:14 says,

“The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.”

It starts out small, so looking for triggers and being aware of them keeps us from letting the flood gates open.  Walking in love will help us to humble ourselves in thanksgiving and serve with love and patience.  Taking a moment of pray can plug that little leak in the dam.  Are you getting irritated because you are putting your wants and desires above the needs of others? Remember, love is putting others needs before our own and doing so expecting nothing in return. We have our Lord Jesus as our perfect example of this sacrificial love.  

This leads us into the last part of verse 5, “Love is not resentful”.  In Greek,  this verse reads, “Love is not irritable and does not count up wrongdoing”.   In Christ, we have been blessed by God, and are counted righteous apart from works. (Romans 4:6)

Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man against whom the Lord counts no iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no deceit. (Psalm 32:1-2)

God does not count up wrongdoing to those who are his in Christ.  When he looks upon us, he sees his righteous Son.  He loves us and we are called to abide in His love.  We love because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19) Loving others takes sacrifice.  And Jesus showed us this to the greatest degree, giving his own life for us to have life eternally with him.

For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised. (2 Corinthians 5:14-15)

When we love others, we keep no record of wrongs.  We forgive and forget. In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus teaches his disciples and us that praying for forgiveness of our sins requires that we have already forgiven those who have sinned against us. “And forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone who is indebted to us” (Luke 11:4).  Withholding forgiveness and having resentment towards others is not love.  It is not the love God has shown to us and and the love he commands us to have toward one another.

For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (Matthew 6:14-15)

Some questions to ask ourselves:

1. What is it that really causes you to get irritated? Consider what might trigger it and aim to stop it in its tracks with God’s word hidden in your heart.

2. Are you letting your own desires and wants cloud your thoughts and not putting others first? Remember “Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor. (1 Corinthians 10:24)

3. Is there someone in your life that you are counting up wrongdoing? Are you keeping a mental record of wrongs in your heart causing you to resent someone and not love them? Seek to forgive them and ask for forgiveness for your own sin.

As we enter this Season of Thanksgiving, let us remember all we have to be thankful for in our Lord and Savior.  For thankfulness will produce praise and rejoicing in our hearts and when we have the Joy of the Lord as our strength, loving others will not be a burden, but a delight.  Have a blessed day!

Love is Not Rude or Self-Seeking- Abide in My Love Series

loveisnotrudeWhat does it mean to say “Love is not rude”? For us, in today’s culture to be rude is to be offensive, impolite or ill-mannered.  In the KJV of the Bible it is defined as behaving “unseemly” or “unbecomingly”.  The definition for “unbecomingly” is – inappropriate behavior, especially not behaving according to the standards appropriate to one’s position or condition of life.

What is our position? As believer’s we are children of God.  What is our condition of life? We are ransomed and have the promise of eternal life.  So in the context of this verse, I will be bold enough to say, “love does not act unchristlike” (not becoming to or like a Christian).  So then we may say, “Love is acting like a follower of Christ”.

As we have seen in the previous verses and I have discussed in previous posts, Christ’s love is patient, kind, content and humble. The next part of verse 5 gives us even more insight to the love of Christ.  It is sacrificial.

“Love is not rude, it does not insist on its own way.” (1 Corinthians 13:5, ESV)

If we are not insisting that things are done our way then we are making a sacrifice of self and intentionally putting others needs before our own.  I don’t know about you, but I can tell you that this is one of the hardest things I am called to do as a Christian.  We are hard wired to be selfish.  Some of it is instinct, most of it is our sinful hearts.  I continually get tangled in the web of my own thoughts and desires. And there lies the danger of sin.

“But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.” (James 1:14-15, ESV)

So how do we fight these desires to please ourselves? By receiving grace from Christ and paying that grace forward to others in love.  And here is an amazing thing about practicing grace, from it comes an abundance of joy and thankfulness, that puts our hearts in a state of self-forgetfulness and springs us into service.

When we understand that we didn’t deserve to be saved by Christ’s life, death, and resurrection we can look upon those who we may think don’t deserve our love and be able to pour it forth abundantly without holding back or expecting anything in return.

A beautiful example of this was seen in the early church just after Christ’s resurrection.  They were believing and being baptized by thousands in a single day.

“So those who received his word were baptized, and there were added that day about three thousand souls. And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.” (Acts 2:41-47, ESV)

And again in 2 Corinthians 8, Paul is describing the generosity of those among the churches of Macedonia.  Even though they were severely afflicted and poor, they understood the grace of God and had an “abundance of joy” that “overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part” (2 Corinthians 8:2). And this generosity stemmed from grateful hearts for the grace they had received in Christ.

“For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you by his poverty might become rich.” (2 Corinthians 8:9)

As you go through the day, turn your eyes upon Jesus and remember the free gift of salvation you have.  It will produce great joy in your heart and give you strength to love others as Christ loves you. Not behaving unbecomingly, but as a servant of God. Not insisting in your own way, but generously sacrificing your own self-worth and becoming rich in the righteousness and love of Christ Jesus our Lord.

Questions to ask ourselves:

1. Have you behaved in an unchristlike manner recently? How can you repent and right that wrong? Do you need to ask for forgiveness? Remember to be honest about your sin and not try to justify your behavior in selfishness.

2.  What is an area of your life where you constantly insist on your own way? Is it as simple of a thing as having the dishwasher loaded a certain way or something as damaging as overriding your husband in things like discipline of the children or finances? Can you let go of some unrealistic expectations and trust fully in God?